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TIN #048 - Networking Nuggets: Insider Tips for Introverted Networkers
How To Build Lasting Connections in an Extroverted World
Hey! It's Greg, your friendly Introverted Networker.
Every week, I send this newsletter to my readers with the best networking strategies and tactics for introverts.
I ask new subscribers, "What's your biggest networking challenge?"
I respond every time a reader gives me an answer.
Today, I'll be sharing my answers to some of these challenges, which will benefit everyone.
So, let's dive in!
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Now, back to this week’s issue:
Sophia's Challenge: What to Say When Reconnecting
Our first answer comes from Sophia. She's facing a common challenge: knowing what to say when reaching out to people she hasn't spoken to in a while.
My advice to her, and anyone in a similar situation, is to think about it from the other person's perspective.
We overthink and worry our words have to be perfect, fearing that a slight imperfection will ruin the conversation.
But most people actually appreciate hearing from long-lost connections.
Imagine yourself on the receiving end. Haven't you felt happy when someone you haven't heard from in a while reaches out?
I know I have!
So, don't stress too much.
A simple message like, "Hey, I was thinking about you the other day and realized we haven't caught up in ages. What's new with you?" can work wonders.
Remember, they might not respond immediately, but that doesn't mean they're not interested. Put yourself in their shoes and think about how you'd feel receiving such a message.
I shared more details on these conversations in TIN #003 - What To Say In A Networking Conversation.
Another tip, for LinkedIn users, is to write a recommendation for the person you want to reconnect with.
It doesn't have to be lengthy or formal. A few sentences about your past experience working together and what you appreciated about them will do. I laid out more details on how to do this in TIN #012 - Make People Re-Connect With You.
When they receive a notification about the recommendation, they're likely to appreciate it and respond.
It's a great way to start the conversation and show that you value their qualities.
Bruce's Challenge: Generating Engagement on LinkedIn
Our next challenge comes from Bruce, who finds it hard to generate engagement or content on LinkedIn.
Starting out on the platform can be intimidating, especially when you see others who have built a strong presence over time.
But remember, everyone starts somewhere.
To get started, follow and engage with interesting people in your industry or field.
Look for those who respond to comments on their posts because it indicates they're active on LinkedIn.
By commenting on their posts and adding your insights or experiences, you contribute to the conversation.
Sometimes, the comments you write might even inspire ideas for your own posts.
Commenting helps you practice creating and show up consistently. It also increases your chances of connecting with others.
When you engage on someone's posts, they might notice and be more open to connecting with you or even starting a conversation.
I've made real-world connections this way. I started with comments, then transitioned to messages and eventually having in-person conversations.
I also shared more steps on how to do this in TIN #010 - How To Network On LinkedIn - Part 2
So, don't hesitate to comment and engage with others. It's a great way to get started on LinkedIn.
Natalia's Challenge: Approaching People Without a Specific Goal
Natalia's challenge revolves around approaching people without a particular goal in mind.
You might want to connect with someone to get to know them better. You have no agenda in mind. You think they might be an interesting person to connect with.
It's important to remember that building relationships is a goal in itself.
Here are a few tips for approaching people without a specific goal:
Show your curiosity: Start the conversation by expressing your genuine interest in getting to know the person better. You can mention something that caught your attention about them, such as an article they wrote, a project they worked on, or a skill they have. This shows that you have taken the time to research and acknowledge their achievements or expertise.
Ask open-ended questions: Open-ended questions encourage a more meaningful and in-depth conversation. Ask questions that invite the person to share their thoughts, experiences, or insights. This can help foster a deeper connection and create opportunities for a more engaging conversation.
Share your own story: While it's important to show interest in the other person, don't forget to share a bit about yourself as well. Opening up about your own experiences, challenges, or passions creates a sense of vulnerability. It allows the other person to relate to you and encourages them to share more about themselves too.
Listen: When engaging in a conversation, practice active listening. Give your full attention to the person, be present in the moment, and show that you care about what they have to say.
Follow up and maintain the connection: After the initial conversation, make an effort to follow up and stay in touch. This could be through a quick message or a relevant article or resource you come across that might interest them. By maintaining the connection, you lay the foundation for a valuable relationship in the future.
Remember, networking is not about immediate gains or transactions. It's about building meaningful connections, fostering relationships, and expanding your network over time.
I hope you found the insights and tips helpful for your own networking endeavors.
Networking as an introvert can be challenging. But, with the right strategies and mindset, you can thrive and build valuable connections.
Remember to be genuine, listen, and approach networking as a long-term investment in relationships.
If you have any further questions or topics you'd like me to cover in future issues, feel free to email me: firstname.lastname@example.org
Until next time, happy networking!
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